Archive for the ‘Marriage’ Category

A Gentle Rebuke in Love

Psalm 141: 5 Let a righteous [woman] strike me—it is a kindness; let [her] rebuke me—it is oil for my head; let my head not refuse it.

Proverbs 13:1 A wise [husband] hears his [wife’s] instruction, but a scoffer does not listen to rebuke.

This past week Stephanie has been teaching everyday and I’ve been home with the kids. Last night Stephanie let me know it was obvious the kids were getting way too much screen time (TV, computer) and she asked me to cut it back in the future. It was a gentle rebuke and a proper one.

Thanks babe.

Categories: Marriage, Parenting

10 Commandments of Purity

February 22, 2008 1 comment

Not sure if I have posted this before or not. Either way it is worth posting again. It is from Ed Young Jr.

10 Commandments of Purity

  1. I shall have no other human relationships before [my wife], including the kids.
  2. Remember the date night and keep it holy.
  3. Honor [my wife] on anniversaries and special days so that you may live long in the land the Lord has given you.
  4. I shall not take the covenant of marriage in vain by apathy.
  5. I shall not ride in a car or eat in a restaurant alone with a member of the opposite sex.
  6. I shall not travel alone.
  7. I shall not counsel a woman with the doors closed.
  8. I shall not share the details of our marriage with others.
  9. I shall not watch, read, or expose myself to sexual explicit shows, books, DVDs, etc.
  10. I shall remember the implications of breaking this covenant and commandment before God.
Categories: Marriage

The Wonder and Work of a Wife

January 10, 2008 2 comments

I’m reading a dramatic biography about Charles Finney, a Christian revivalist in the 1800s. Among the many insightful statements made in the book are two descriptions of Finney’s relationship with his wife Lydia. 12 years his younger Lydia was a source of strength and inspiration to Finney during some of the darker moments of his life. The author writes of her (and of any wonderful wife):

She is cherished as a companion, adored by reason of her loveliness; but when the heavy shadows fall, she seems altogether an angel. (pg. 89)

After detailing Finney’s fear that God was finished using him to do great things, the author recounts Lydia’s inspiration word to her husband, “My dear, your best is yet to come” and says,

It may be that here is the high reason for the companionship which he established at Eden; wives and mothers seem to listen best when men in anguish can no longer hear. (pg. 94)

My wife has had some Lydia moments in my life where she has spoken the supportive or inspiration word that I need to here, Thank you Jesus for the companionship of a great wife.

Categories: Marriage, Quotes

Marriage Materials

June 1, 2007 4 comments

I have officiated a couple wedding ceremonies in the past and I have a couple lined up for the future, but I’m wondering if there is anyone out there who might have some resources that I would be able to use. In particular I am looking for premarital counseling curriculum, ceremony order and vow books, and any other related materials to help enrich and guide me through the process.

– What has worked for you?
– What did your pastor use in your premarital counseling?
– What was helpful?
– What was not so helpful?
– What would you have liked to have been included?

Any feedback is appreciated. Leave a comment or send an email. Thanks.

Categories: Marriage

Date Night

Had a great date night with Stephanie yesterday.

My brother Aaron gave us a couple tickets to the Minnesota Wild game and my mom was kind enough to watch the kids so that we could get out of the house and be adults for a few hours. We had fun watching the Wild beat-up on the St. Louis Blues. Then we stopped at Chipotle on the way home and got a super filling late dinner. It was the end of the night so the woman at Chipotle put ‘extra everything’ on our burritos. Needless to say, we were stuffed.

It felt good to end a hectic exhausting week by just being alone, laughing and enjoying the evening with Stephanie.

Categories: Fun, Marriage, Sports, Stephanie

Redemptive Seperation

February 24, 2007 Leave a comment

I heard a quote today that seems to have providential timing in my life. I was driving home after a long day and listening to a John Piper sermon on marriage when he used the phrase “redemptive seperation.” Then he remarked that there are times when separation in a marriage is necessary because by staying together the offending party may be “enabling the other to sin.” You can read the whole sermon here.

I had been praying a lot today for some friends who are going through a hard time. I needed some wisdom and I feel like God gave it to me through the podcast. I don’t really know what to do or what to say, so I am praying that God would be real and that he would show up in some amazing ways. Marriage is a difficult thing, every day, and yet God gave it to man and woman for their benefit and for the benefit of the world.

Show Your Kids You Love Each Other

February 12, 2007 Leave a comment

Good reminder from Casey on the importance of husbands and wives demonstrating their love for one another in front of their children.

Categories: Marriage, Parenting